Day 30 received responses to first set of Interrogatories & Production...

[The Mrs]

Only had 8 Interrogatory items and 6 items for production.  Compared to some of what I seen and heard other people have been asked to produce this was nothing.  Now they have already filed a motion for a 90 day extension but that won't be heard until next week, they could have sent something, instead the answer to EVERYTHING was sorry, too burdensome, too extensive, information may only be available through expert witness who hasn't been identified or retained or Plaintiff can access that information herself!

So, the Motion to Compel was filed today. Yeah!

[cobaltblue]

Trying to send a PM to you. Your Inbox is full to 100% and bouncing messages. If you delete older messages you will again be able to receive PMs from folks.

[toomanytears]

Only had 8 Interrogatory items and 6 items for production.  Compared to some of what I seen and heard other people have been asked to produce this was nothing.  Now they have already filed a motion for a 90 day extension but that won't be heard until next week, they could have sent something, instead the answer to EVERYTHING was sorry, too burdensome, too extensive, information may only be available through expert witness who hasn't been identified or retained or Plaintiff can access that information herself!

So, the Motion to Compel was filed today. Yeah!

Hi TM

I'm from the uk and some of the legal terminology is different. What is a motion to compel? Is it about financial disclosure? I read your post on mediation which had some really useful responses. I am about to go through a similar process with my BPDh. He is strongly resisting supplying full details of his financial information. My feeling is that I don't want to start mediation until all the financial cards are on the table ... .

TMT

[The Mrs]

My husband did not give ANY information.  So, the Motion to Compel is kind of like a motion to make him comply, I guess.  Next week we will have a hearing where he is asking for a 90 day extension for more time to produce documents and a complete stay or stop to the divorce process.  He feels in his twisted, convoluted, sick, demented mind that there are no Irreconcilable Differences and that the marriage is reparable, so why should he have to produce the documents.

  I happened to record him this week when I stopped by to take care of some paperwork and he was ranting and berating me and telling me I was a F'ing joke and he would see me in court and on and on.  I played it for my attorney today.  His little devil horns kind of grew, and he said, "if you could get it a little louder it would be kind of fun to play it for the judge when his attorney claims the marriage is repairable!". 

[ForeverDad]

The atmosphere in court is very subdued, as though there are only minor issues to deal with.  (I was about to say as though everyone was medicated on mood stabilizers, but I better not.)  Partly that's because the court doesn't want to enable a War to continue.  Also, they're very sensitive to complaints of rights, etc.  That's why the court seems to enable the misbehaving one a lot of latitude.  They don't want to come down hard real quick in case in case the sensitive person makes wild allegations of whatever.  So they take a long time and come down real soft.

[The Mrs]

Forever Dad:  our first Status Conference is also going to be next week.  I only filed 2 months ago.  My attorney said yesterday that, believe it or not, a trial date will be scheduled for 3 or 4 months out and both sides will be asked how long they estimate that should take.  He claims the courts up here do not like to let things drag on and on... . we will see.  He said I could be divorced in 4 months! I scoffed in a big, big way.  I said I am seriously thinking not.  So, we ended up making a bet.  If I am divorced by the end of 2014 I owe him a 6 pack of Corona beer, if I am not he owes me a bottle of my favorite Chardonnay! 

And as I was walking out of his office I turned around and said, ":)ivorced,  and on my terms, right?" .

[Matt]

I'm not a lawyer, but I've filed a few Motions To Compel.  Basically the courts tell you to do something, and if you don't do it, the other side can file a Motion To Compel, and if the court grants that, it's saying, "You have to do what the court told you to do."  Then if they still don't do it, the court might find them in contempt and fine them or even put them in jail.

It's kind of ridiculous, because it's just more time and money spent repeating the order the court already issued, but that's how they do it.  (Of course both attorneys will bill their clients for dancing this dance.)

I would suggest having no contact with him except through your lawyer.  You don't need to be abused, and if you are nice to him he might think that means you are open to his advances.  Have your lawyer make it clear to the court that you are not open to reconciling.  The courts aren't eHarmony - they're not there to make people like each other.  But if the court thinks you might get back together, things will go slow.