It's amazing the favors they can do for us

[Beware of Junk Psychology...]

My uBPDw has done me an amazing favor. She has continued to herself and has managed to cycle from idealization to painting me black in the space of days. When I told her I wanted a divorce, I had maybe 10 days of unrelenting texts pleading with me to come home, promising me the moon, declaring her love, then playing ever victim card she could -- and I felt bad about it even though I could see what she was doing. Now she's back to threats, abusive messages and outrageous demands. With each passing day of her continued yoYou're-ing, it's becoming easier to internalize the realization that this is who she is, a very damaged person who I can't help. She's making it so much easier for me to realize there is no going back -- and helping realize I don't want to go back. I'm not responding to her emails, not even really reading them. I just forward to my attorney to tell me if there's anything in them I need to address. Today I feel remarkably at peace. I don't expect that to last because the process of divorce will reopen wounds but it feels so damn good to know I'm on the right path. She's done me an enormous favor.

[Strangerinthemirror]

My uBPDw has done me an amazing favor. She has continued to herself and has managed to cycle from idealization to painting me black in the space of days. When I told her I wanted a divorce, I had maybe 10 days of unrelenting texts pleading with me to come home, promising me the moon, declaring her love, then playing ever victim card she could -- and I felt bad about it even though I could see what she was doing. Now she's back to threats, abusive messages and outrageous demands. With each passing day of her continued yoYou're-ing, it's becoming easier to internalize the realization that this is who she is, a very damaged person who I can't help. She's making it so much easier for me to realize there is no going back -- and helping realize I don't want to go back. I'm not responding to her emails, not even really reading them. I just forward to my attorney to tell me if there's anything in them I need to address. Today I feel remarkably at peace. I don't expect that to last because the process of divorce will reopen wounds but it feels so damn good to know I'm on the right path. She's done me an enormous favor.

[enlighten me]

I spent almost a year thinking of leaving my exgf. Everytime I was about to she would do something nice. It didn't have to be much. A compliment, a hug, even get up and make me a coffee without asking and there I was back to square one.

Its such a relief when they behave in a way that makes up our minds for us.