I'm curious as there is some similarity in what happened to you with my breakup. Do you feel you were in control at that time? Or did you have more control than usual around that time? Mine I feel decided to break up with me (after the best week in over a year) to take back control, consciously she rationalized it as "I don't feel same about you, I'm not in love with you anymore, you gave up on me", when in actuality I had just set some firm boundaries and did not budge on them over the previous month giving me a lot of control and power in the r/s that had momentarily improved her behavior immensely, hence the great week we had before the breakup.
No, not in control at all, did take some control back the previous week when I stated that I thought we should have a break as I was very unhappy and couldn't continue, she was fine for that one week, back like old times, she made an effort. I didn't state it to take back control as didn't want to play games etc with her.
When I pushed her via the phone call, she said those lines and did pipe up about her emotions but wouldn't go any further or provide any more information.
She suggested that I went round to see her that eve but I declined, what was the point? There was no point, more rejection, projection and criticism.
The mere way it ended has made me realize afterwards what a sham it all was, this was someone who was wanting to have our child with me, someone who says they loved me, even made me feel loved, wanted to settle down etc etc etc. So limp and lame but then I guess they don't know any better.
