Hi Alrick and
As parents that must be so frustrating! Mostly we just want what's best for our kids and for them to be happy, and not even knowing what's even going on in their lives is so difficult. When there are concerns for their emotional and physical well-being we get that much more anxious. (I know, I've been there too!)
Your son has been through some tough things it sounds like, for sure. And we all have made mistakes as parents, none of us being able to see what's behind every move our children make. The point is, you are now armed with information and ready to try doing things differently, so forgive yourself for whatever you feel you've done wrong in the past. Moving forward is the main motion here at bpdfamily, toward hope and healing.
When a child suffers from BPD (even our adult child), not only is the child unhappy and unhealthy, but often, so is everyone who loves them. This mental illness can severely affect everyone, creating drama and heartbreak, while also piling on the guilt and anxiety. The good news is that there are answers to these problems, and we are here to offer you the support and encouragement to help you find them. You'll see that there are things that can be done to stop making things worse and begin to make them better. A great place to start is with this set of resources:
What can a parent do? We look forward to seeing you on the
Parenting a Son or Daughter Suffering from BPD board and hope you join us in learning how to understand and communicate with our children better.
If you are ready to, why don't you go to that board and post at least this part of your story as a New Topic, then you'll start seeing the beauty of this community in action. Or look through the conversations that have already been started there and jump in where you see something that interests you.
I'm so sorry you're going through this worrying time, and I'm so glad you found us here!
dreamflyer99