The Mathematics of BPD

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

Love = Pain

My feelings ≠ your understanding of them

Your hatred towards me is > anything I can comprehend

(You + Me)  ÷ BPD = The End

[martymcfly5]

Love = Pain

My feelings ≠ your understanding of them

Your hatred towards me is > anything I can comprehend

(You + Me)  ÷ BPD = The End

[hope4tomorrow]

How Very True!

[Hopeless777]

I was going to say that the formula was wrong because love does not equal pain. Then I thought some more and realized that in my 57 years on this earth I've loved two women and both tried to destroy me and the pain is/was awful. So based on my experience to date, you are correct. However, I have to believe that "healthy" love does not equal pain. I just haven't experienced it yet. Someday I hope to.

[goldylamont]

Lie = Truth?

Friend = F-buddy?

I Love You = (I Hate You) ^ T   // where T=Time to go from good to bad

[myself]

The math of it just got me looking into the following.

If you take the fourth line from each of the four verses of the John Lennon/Beatles song 'Come Together', which includes the line "One and one and one is three", you find: "Got to be a joker he just do what he please... .One thing I can tell you is you got to be free... .Hold you in his armchair you can feel his disease... .Got to be good-looking 'cause he's so hard to see."

PwBPD + PwithoutBPD=   

[Tausk]

        pwBPD = i

[Visitor]

pwBPD = ... .babe where did you go?,I was about to tell you what it equals... first you tell you love mathematical equation and now you tell me you don't want to know it and you need some space?... .hello? oh so now you aren't replying to emails either!. Come on just talk to me about it... oh man this is all my fault  

[Visitor]

1 + 1 = 2

pwBPD: It's 3

nonBPD: no it's 2

pwBPD: no it's 3 there's another one isn't there!

nonBPD: no honestly there's no other 1 there is only 2

pwBPD: I know there is another 1 and it equals 3! come on who is it?... who is this other 1! I know you're going to go off with the other one.

nonBPD: what the hell are you talking about? there is only 2 of us not 3!

pwBPD: I hate you!

nonBPD: this is all my fault

1 + 1 = 3

[Alex86]

Ok here you go... .

Love = need * mood_i, where i = current hour of the day

pwBPD soulmate = Person_Love,

where Love as defined above and Person chosen randomly acting like a parent

pwBPD feelings = true feelings / ( impulsiveness + control + fear + self hating )

pwBPD guilt = pwBPD shame - ( nothing is pwBPD's fault )

Discussion with a pwBPD = non PBD phrases / 100 * trigger words for pwBPD

[Blimblam]

PwBPD= spiritual vacume and lost tormented soul

[ScotisGone74]

NonpwBPD x manipulation x  constantly lied to x  blamed for anything/ everything x.  x number of years=  what the fook just happened

[tired-of-it-all]

I was going to say that the formula was wrong because love does not equal pain. Then I thought some more and realized that in my 57 years on this earth I've loved two women and both tried to destroy me and the pain is/was awful. So based on my experience to date, you are correct. However, I have to believe that "healthy" love does not equal pain. I just haven't experienced it yet. Someday I hope to.

Early in my adult life (I am also in my fifties), I made the decision to not let myself feel love for a partner.  I can let myself love my children but not my wife.  It always resulted in horrible pain and poor judgement on my part.  It also gave her power over me that wasn't good for me.  Later in life I made the mistake of letting myself love.  It is the greatest and worst thing in the world, all at the same time.  I am back to keeping a wall around my heart.  It just isn't worth the pain.

[woofhound]

pwBPD = ... .babe where did you go?,I was about to tell you what it equals... first you tell you love mathematical equation and now you tell me you don't want to know it and you need some space?... .hello? oh so now you aren't replying to emails either!. Come on just talk to me about it... oh man this is all my fault  

Brilliant!

[BuildingFromScratch]

BPD = 0

Me = 1

BPD * Me = 0

[mywifecrazy]

BPD = 0

Me = 1

BPD * Me = 0

Nuff Said!

[Tausk]

       pwBPD = i

Aw come on people:   i

Look it up.

The square root of -1.

Imaginary

Irrational

As you multiply it by itself it pops in and out of rational to irrational and positive to negative... .

Like the dissociative personalities of our exes.  

This was perhaps my most brilliant and probably only truly original post.  

i  is used to model fractals and Chaos Theory.

Calling our exes a fractal or in Chaos also fits.  

And of course our exes wBPD, it was all about them.  So the "I" but instead "i" also works.

It's a brilliant Mathematics post

   

   

[letmeout]

These were hilarious, thanks for the laughs!

I am listening to "Set Fire To The Rain" by ADELE and just realized she is probably talking about someone with BPD!

But there's a side to you

That I never knew, never knew.

All the things you'd say

They were never true, never true,

And the games you play

You would always win, always win.

[nolisan]

Wounded "Normie"

+

pwBPD (wounded)

=

Dysfunction and Pain

[woofhound]

Solve for X

N=Normal person

D= the amount of money thrown away to help X

A=number of counseling appointments paid for my N where X lied and N got really frustrated


X(D*A)/N= Confusion, Depression, a prescription for antidepressants, and considerably less money

[Wanna Move On]

This was a brilliant and cteative thread. I would like to attempt mathematizing a typical BPD/non relationship:

pwBPD = 1/2 a person

(Because they are soo emotionally underdeveloped, and their belief systems are soo grotesquely deformed.)

non = 1/2 a person

(Because many of us nons are similarly core-damaged and codependent -- why else would we be drawn to AND STAY with them?)

So: pwBPD (1/2 a person)

                     +

       nonBPD (1/2 a person)

                     =

                 ZERO,

Yes, a BPD relationship defies the natural laws of mathematics!

(But WE are also equally at blame, because WE chose to stay and invest in a deeply core-damaged person.)

[mywifecrazy]

PwBPD "I would never do that"= Not only have I done that but I will do so much more that Your head will be.                                                      spinning

(Non + NC from pwBPD) = (Healing+Truth+Happiness)

(pwBPD=emptiness,guilt,shame,loneliness)=a very sad existence for pwBPD :'(

MWC... .

[goldylamont]

These were hilarious, thanks for the laughs!

I am listening to "Set Fire To The Rain" by ADELE and just realized she is probably talking about someone with BPD!

But there's a side to you

That I never knew, never knew.

All the things you'd say

They were never true, never true,

And the games you play

You would always win, always win.

Aaaaaah! Want to know what's frustrating? This is the exact Adele song my uxBPDgf posted on facebook after her short r/s with my replacement failed horribly within a few months. . feels so hypocritical if the song really was about someone with a pd 

And Tausk     I GOT YOUR EQUATION THE FIRST TIME AND IT IS AWESOME!  In fact it's my favorite for all the reasons you mentioned. pwBPD=i , 

[Tausk]

These were hilarious, thanks for the laughs!

I am listening to "Set Fire To The Rain" by ADELE and just realized she is probably talking about someone with BPD!

But there's a side to you

That I never knew, never knew.

All the things you'd say

They were never true, never true,

And the games you play

You would always win, always win.

Aaaaaah! Want to know what's frustrating? This is the exact Adele song my uxBPDgf posted on facebook after her short r/s with my replacement failed horribly within a few months. . feels so hypocritical if the song really was about someone with a pd 

And Tausk     I GOT YOUR EQUATION THE FIRST TIME AND IT IS AWESOME!  In fact it's my favorite for all the reasons you mentioned. pwBPD=i , 

Thank.  At least someone can share it with me.  It's very geeky, but heck knew I couldn't have been the only geeky math introvert on this board.

And,   i  , really does fit them.  Imaginary,  Irrational, quantum, nonbound... .

[Visitor]

       pwBPD = i

Aw come on people:   i

Look it up.

The square root of -1.

Imaginary

Irrational

As you multiply it by itself it pops in and out of rational to irrational and positive to negative... .

Like the dissociative personalities of our exes.  

This was perhaps my most brilliant and probably only truly original post.  

i  is used to model fractals and Chaos Theory.

Calling our exes a fractal or in Chaos also fits.  

And of course our exes wBPD, it was all about them.  So the "I" but instead "i" also works.

It's a brilliant Mathematics post

   

   

Hahahaha... .this is great... .so simple yet so fitting.

[Visitor]

Actually Tausk I would shorten the equation to something even more simple:

BPD = i

[thereishope]

1 + 1 = 2

pwBPD: It's 3

nonBPD: no it's 2

pwBPD: no it's 3 there's another one isn't there!

nonBPD: no honestly there's no other 1 there is only 2

pwBPD: I know there is another 1 and it equals 3! come on who is it?... who is this other 1! I know you're going to go off with the other one.

nonBPD: what the hell are you talking about? there is only 2 of us not 3!

pwBPD: I hate you!

nonBPD: this is all my fault

1 + 1 = 3





1 +

This is brilliant!  Expresses perfectly the math I have been all too familiar with here! 

[thereishope]

pwBPD = ... .babe where did you go?,I was about to tell you what it equals... first you tell you love mathematical equation and now you tell me you don't want to know it and you need some space?... .hello? oh so now you aren't replying to emails either!. Come on just talk to me about it... oh man this is all my fault  

Brilliant!

This too! 

[thereishope]

BPD = 0

Me = 1

BPD * Me = 0

This is deep too! 

[Danie14]

Me and math have never gotten along but even I know that 1+1=2 and he would try to convince me that 1+1= 12 on Monday and it'd equal 22 on Tuesday and the then on Wednesday it'd equal purple with pink poke-a-dots.



Yes, Irrational is what is all equals.

[mywifecrazy]

Non=a

Non asking uBPDxw question=uBPDxw lying out her ass=X



(X * a)= a +  (   *   )

a-(uBPDxw * X) = (a + )



MWC... .