Ticket to Freedom: Why you MUST remain NC

[martymcfly5]

You’re trying to get your integrity back from the one person on the planet who is never going to give it to you.

[LettingGo14]

Hello martymcfly5.

NC does give us "space" for healing.  I have learned, as well, that NC is not about the other person.   We enact and enforce NC for one reason -- ourselves.

I completely agree that we want to take back our own power, which feels diminished after our relationship.  We often feel like we have expended so much energy trying to keep the relationship afloat, and ourselves sane, that we do need to reclaim ourselves.

That said, we all have our own paths.  Sometimes limited contact gives closure.  Sometimes limited contact is required due to children.   Sometimes No Contact gives way to limited contact.

Can you tell us a little about your NC right now?  Are you facing a bombardment of messages?  

[martymcfly5]

Can you tell us a little about your NC right now?  Are you facing a bombardment of messages?  

It's the 2 month anniversary of NC and I struggled with it to be honest. What I was bombarded with were the thoughts of reactivating my FB account. However because the 'darling' stole my identity and recreated a FB page with my name, I can never return to FB anytime soon... esp my HS reunion page. I'm beyond pissed that I can't contribute to that nor reconnect with legit friends... who know the score anyways. Disorder 1, McFly 0.