Love for Disney esp. The Lion King

[Fluff]

I love Disney myself, though I can't watch it with same eyes I once did.

However, it was about the only movies uBPDxgf would watch.

She especially loved The lion king and had a tattoo of young Simba on her leg. The only other borderline girl I've known also had a tattoo of young Simba.


Is there a pattern here? Why young Simba?

[Blimblam]

They sure love their children's movies.  Young simba is running away from the "darkness" and fear.  The lion king has some very gnostic themes going on in it.

[Mutt]

Persons with BPD have likes and dislikes just like you or I. It's an emotional based disorder. I like watching and introducing the Disney Classics to my young kids. It's just a coincidence that you ex and acquaintance have the same like in the character.

[enlighten me]

It was brother bear for my exgf. I can see how she might relate to this movie. Being trapped as a bear and not being able to communicate. And then thelight at the end of the tunnel with the happily ever after ending.

[pavilion]

If someone watches a film or book and has a compulsion to watch it again and again you can be pretty sure there is some kind of story in there that they relate to on an unconscious level. Unfortunately for my ex it was The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo films   !

[Visitor]

If someone watches a film or book and has a compulsion to watch it again and again you can be pretty sure there is some kind of story in there that they relate to on an unconscious level. Unfortunately for my ex it was The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo films   !

Agreed.

Disney/childrens films all have very happy endings. They leave us thinking that once two people are together they will live happily ever after.

Isn't that what a BPD wants?  a knight in shinning armor? a fantasy relationship where love lasts forever?

I think these Disney movies do more harm than good to all children in later life.

Relationships are very hard no matter who you both are.

[BuildingFromScratch]

Mine loved anything "innocent" and childish. I believe there are many reasons for this.

1) If it's innocent then they can view it as perfect, then they can pretend that the show is a part of their narcissistic personality

2) If it's innocent, it is safe and won't trigger them

3) They want the childhood they never had

[drummerboy]

Emotionally they are about 5 years of age so its not surprising that they like Disney films. Mine absolutely adored a book called "The Little Prince" a French children's book that has some adult concepts.

[BuildingFromScratch]

I was my ex's "Little Prince", we both loved that book, it was the most sentimental memory of our relationship

[drummerboy]

Mine too, we used to read it to each other and my best memory of us was reading it to her in bed with her head resting on my chest. I still have her favourite copy of the book that she gave me. I've thought about returning it because I know it means so much to her but who knows what returning it would cause? I offered to return it but no reply!

I was my ex's "Little Prince", we both loved that book, it was the most sentimental memory of our relationship

[BuildingFromScratch]

I have a phobia of reading it now. I've tried like 5 or so times. This relationship sure has turned my mind into a pile of goo. Also I told her "If you please draw me a sheep" and she did. Talk about hard memories to cope with.

[.cup.car]

The Little Mermaid.

[Visitor]

. Also I told her "If you please draw me a sheep" and she did. Talk about hard memories to cope with.

What does that mean 

[BuildingFromScratch]

Oh, you'd have to read the story.

[Bak86]

Mine loved disney movies as well, but so do a lot of girls. That doesn't say anything imo.

[Dutched]

Fluff

I really understand that you are looking for answers,  explanations, etc. in order to process the tremendous hurt we go through, but as Mutt says, not al is related to Borderline.

I read post on a Borderline forums too (so for BPD sufferers), years ago I joined a local group, went to triad meetings (in which family, BPDs and psychologists were present), 

One thing I certainly learned is that “they” wonder the same thing about themselves sometimes, plain forgetting that we all are humans and ALL have some interests and things we like. That’s all.

Nothing human is strange to us, or to “them”… 

Did you like “the pirates of the Caribbean”?  It’s Disney too… wasn’t it that hundreds of million people liked that movie…?.

[enlighten me]

I can see what people mean with this post.

Yes everybody loves Disney films. Where it could be seen as different is if its obsessive or creates an over the top reaction.

What can be taken from this is the inner workings of a particular persons mind.

My exgf loved all sorts of films and depending on her mood depended on what she liked to watch like all of us. There where however certain films that triggered something in her. Scenes that I didn't see as anything out of the ordinary would bring her to tears. I wish now that I had paid more attention to this but that was before learning about BPD or witnessing it in full flow.

She was also the same with music. Certain songs would bring out an adverse or over the top reaction.

[AwakenedOne]

If it's innocent then they can view it as perfect, then they can pretend that the show is a part of their narcissistic personality.

I agree with this comment.