Did your BPD partner like startling / scaring you.

[Visitor]

. "No" was just a jumping off point to rehash arguments that had been hashed to death. PwBPD do not like NO!

Oh god the rehashing arguments thing!... .it wasn't just rehashing one argument. As soon as we started to argue she would bring up the WHOLE past!. Even things from when we very first met.

She would also bring up things that she hadn't told me but has pissed her off so she filed it and brought it up mid argument.

Did anybody else get that? your pwBPD raging at you about something you did a week ago but you wasn't even aware of it until she brings it up?

[RisingSun]

Did anybody else get that? your pwBPD raging at you about something you did a week ago but you wasn't even aware of it until she brings it up?

Yeh, I got that. It was like she filed it away for later use, knowing that she would/could use it when she felt the need. Earlier unspoken issues she had with things from, the not so distant past, were used to fuel her rage or just plain get upset when she needed to release a bit of built tension.

Oh god the rehashing arguments thing!... .it wasn't just rehashing one argument. As soon as we started to argue she would bring up the WHOLE past!. Even things from when we very first met.

Bringing up old stuff from way back in the past was a big one as well. It wasn't like that stuff hadn't been argued about enough already. Getting her to stay on topic was difficult.

She would jump around to different issues and through new stuff in the mix. It was so confusing! Sometimes the things would be totally unrelated to the original argument.

I would commonly just shut down and try my best to stay afloat during an argument. I didn't know up from down. It was like a whirlwind.

[Visitor]

Did anybody else get that? your pwBPD raging at you about something you did a week ago but you wasn't even aware of it until she brings it up?

Yeh, I got that. It was like she filed it away for later use, knowing that she would/could use it when she felt the need. Earlier unspoken issues she had with things from, the not so distant past, were used to fuel her rage or just plain get upset when she needed to release a bit of built tension.

Oh god the rehashing arguments thing!... .it wasn't just rehashing one argument. As soon as we started to argue she would bring up the WHOLE past!. Even things from when we very first met.

Bringing up old stuff from way back in the past was a big one as well. It wasn't like that stuff hadn't been argued about enough already. Getting her to stay on topic was difficult.

She would jump around to different issues and through new stuff in the mix. It was so confusing! Sometimes the things would be totally unrelated to the original argument.

I would commonly just shut down and try my best to stay afloat during an argument. I didn't know up from down. It was like a whirlwind.

I remember the day I left her. I woke up in the morning and was having a really good day. We hadn't argued about anything and then the phone rings. I thought she was calling just to have a chat but she was already crying when I answered. She then tells me why she was so upset at what I had done. I wont say what it was but the reason was just ridiculous.

It was in that moment that I knew I had to end things. She begged me to reconsider but all I could think is why in gods name would you want to stay in this relationships? all we do is argue all time!

I'm sure they need drama in their lives as much as they do the air that they breath. Take away the drama and start giving them what they want and you will literally become suffocating to a BPD.