So my new L says;
play nice, don't ruffle UBPDX.
as though playing nice makes UBPDX be nice. otherwise he would have been soo nice !
L says D is already lost to X already F*****up with this much alienation.
A month ago UBPDX had a rage and had D wanting to go to dads. Big drama, Child protection, and threats of change custody.
Letters CC'd to his L. D almost hysterical with me at times to "move to dad's"
I stayed calm.did not respond, and HE DID NOTHING.
JUST manipulates D.
D now refuses calls when she is at UBPDX house or his friends.
He gives her to anyone but me when he is DR. at work at HOSPITAL
$%&%$^&*&_(&^@#@@#%^
has her "refusing and choosing her place" although our orders are ROFR.
L says dont threaten him about ROFR.
It all puts her in the middle.
Ruffling poor BPDS feathers makes it worse for D.
This IS STILL Hostage
held over a barrell.
Its what they do, and Believe it.
Mine did it, just textbook.
The last 2 visits with D were dramaless, perfectly fun normal visit.
NO MENTION of "moving to dad's"
I felt so great
Until UBPDX drove away with her tonight.
I insisted and counted on the ROFR to see my D !
He doesnt follow through.
I feel responsible to be available every waking minute I know he is in clinic, to be available for her,
Like I agreed in the orders.
how am I supposed to schedule my life, when I committ to her?
I committed to this.
I am crumbling with the feelings of powerless of this chokehold he still has.
Im so mad.
how can I let go?
