Facebook drama? Or is she truly happy?

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

Three weeks ago I told my ex BPD I no longer want to be in her life. That she lied to me about the replacement. That she is a really sick person. It was ridiculous to believe she would actually trying to better herself. Before the conversation could really escalate I blocked her from my phone and everything else. I know what I said cut deep. It would to most people. especially since I've never talk to her like that before. Today a mutual friend (we have over 100), told me that the new girlfriend is posting photos of them together every three minutes. I know my ex has a filter of photos she can approve to be on her Facebook. She used to hate grandiose displays of affection on Facebook. When I found out this news I laughed so hard. Part of me feels that she wants my friends to tell me how she's doing. That she wants all of these happy Photos to display how happy she is without me. Is she really doing that? Or is she really that happy? To me it just shows that she is totally regressed. Has not done any work on herself. This is going to be in excess of relationship just like I was. But there is a little bit of self-doubt. Thoughts?

[JRav59]

Three weeks ago I told my ex BPD I no longer want to be in her life. That she lied to me about the replacement. That she is a really sick person. It was ridiculous to believe she would actually trying to better herself. Before the conversation could really escalate I blocked her from my phone and everything else. I know what I said cut deep. It would to most people. especially since I've never talk to her like that before. Today a mutual friend (we have over 100), told me that the new girlfriend is posting photos of them together every three minutes. I know my ex has a filter of photos she can approve to be on her Facebook. She used to hate grandiose displays of affection on Facebook. When I found out this news I laughed so hard. Part of me feels that she wants my friends to tell me how she's doing. That she wants all of these happy Photos to display how happy she is without me. Is she really doing that? Or is she really that happy? To me it just shows that she is totally regressed. Has not done any work on herself. This is going to be in excess of relationship just like I was. But there is a little bit of self-doubt. Thoughts?

[Infern0]

It's "this" question again... .

"Is she truly happy"

NO,  she has BPD. /thread

Sorry to be so blunt but that's the simple answer.

It takes years of therapy for these people to have any semblance of true happiness.

She's dissappeared down the rabbit hole with the replacement because she has a serious mental illness which prevents any kind of self examination or reflection.  She's constantly hiding from the reality that she is an awful human being. But she also KNOWS she is an awful human being.  It's like a subliminal voice in her head that will not stop.

Happy?

Not on your life

[drummerboy]

I don't follow my ex on FB. When she dumped me she put a post up saying that she was signing off FB for a while, 6 months later she starts posting again (according to a friend) that life is great after getting over her heartbreak (me) . I'm sure she is happy in a BPD kind of way. She'll be on top if the world until she cycles back into depression again. (I think my ex had equal amounts of BPD and bipolar. She won't have fixed anything up about herself but she'll be fine until the next time.

[JRav59]

Four weeks ago she professed your love to me. Said that I will always be in our heart.  That she will always be sad about us.  It was a total manipulation tactic. Normally I wouldn't blow up at someone.  I finally told her everything I feel. She's been blocked on my Facebook for over three months now.

[JRav59]

I discovered more by talking to my friend. She's chain-smoking. Hung over all the time. The replacement is very jealous and suspicious. She's blowing all of her money. It just validates that I was the best thing to ever happen to her.

[rickdeckard]

It's "this" question again... .

"Is she truly happy"

NO,  she has BPD. /thread

Sorry to be so blunt but that's the simple answer.

It takes years of therapy for these people to have any semblance of true happiness.

She's dissappeared down the rabbit hole with the replacement because she has a serious mental illness which prevents any kind of self examination or reflection.  She's constantly hiding from the reality that she is an awful human being. But she also KNOWS she is an awful human being.  It's like a subliminal voice in her head that will not stop.

Happy?

Not on your life

Yes, yes, Infern0. This question. Its the one that eats at so many of us. Is he she happy with replacement?

As you stated. NO. Not happy with them. NO. Never will be. Ive actually gotten to see how unhappy she is with him. The honeymoon is over and the abuse is in full swing.

FB drama is just that. I can post how I had a wonderful day at the beach with my friends. Hanging out and enjoying each others company. What I would not post is that my friends gf snuck off and made out with another of our group, got caught, and a serious fight ensued. Someone went to jail. But all you see on FB is what I typed into it. A great weekend.

Your ex is full of e-crap, JRav. FB is a false face.

Take care of you.

[Infern0]

My ex posts on instagram and fakebook all the time how happy she is.

This is a person who has told me many times that she has NEVER been happy,  hates herself,  feels worthless and is slowly starving herself to death.

I don't know why it is but with me she occasionally opens up and I get the truth out of her and I know this is a person who is desperately unhappy,  but is also a fantastic actress. 

Take one look at her,  dangerously underweight,  bandage on her arm,  yeah she's happy alright.

It's really really sad but right now there is little I can do about it.

But yeah you are falling for a really transparent lie if you think your BPD ex is happy