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« Reply #90 on: November 18, 2014, 06:50:18 PM »

I just don't have the guts to get out of my situation yet.

Sending you a great big hug!  

I can really relate to your list, right down to not having the guts to get out yet. I used to have anxiety and fear but I could always talk myself out of it. I used to be so logical and rational. After 16.5 years of marriage, I feel paralyzed by fear and am trying to get back to a place where I can find it in me to leave or do something different.

I have read so many of your posts Vortex. I really feel for you. Suffering for 16.5 years I can understand your complete paralysis with fear. HUGS BACK!
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« Reply #91 on: November 18, 2014, 06:51:28 PM »

Sorry Vortex. I mean, "YOU suffering for 16.5 years". I have only been in mine for 3.
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« Reply #92 on: November 18, 2014, 10:07:53 PM »

micheal71

Breathe, you are ok. No matter what you are ok.

I miss mine but I couldn't live with him right now.

I admire you for being in the thick of it. One foot in front of the other. Take care of you. If you don't put your own oxygen mask on first you can't be of help to anyone else.

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« Reply #93 on: November 19, 2014, 12:26:42 AM »

michel71 google effects of trauma on the body. This is the effect of her verbal abuse and degrading. You NEVER going to live up to her expectations. So get out there. You are wrecking your health. Apart from going into a depression I started to develop a type of asthma. I lost all interest in sex and my work started to suffer as well.

Since I walked out I have made a full recovery. I am me again. I eat well, sleep well and really enjoy my work. I even got involved in a new business venture which I am really enjoying.

You got to get out of there, before you end up with permanent health issues.
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« Reply #94 on: November 19, 2014, 04:41:19 PM »

Thanks all for your comments. I didn't mean to "hijack" the post here, but I really do appreciate your words of wisdom and encouragement. I will continue to learn and grow and survive... .
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« Reply #95 on: November 19, 2014, 08:51:26 PM »

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Thank you for participating in the thread and the topic is now closed. You're welcome to start a new topic of discussion. Thanks.
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