just an ammendum meant it is really easy to tell if someone is BPD
also it was easy to tell her sister was BPD ( an yes my ex had BPD )
it does take quite a few years an a couple of oceans of tears to learn though
Yea i can completely relate. I knew my exs sister had major issues before my ex with all the stories id hear and how off she acted when i met her. Also just by the behavior of how her sister would constantly convince her to "leave me" when they were on the phone after a fight wed have. Instead of calming her down shed just increase the drama 10 fold. That and how she drained her husbands savings dry, ran off for over a month sleeping with all manner of guys, partying to get drunk/high constantly with the money and then the chump took her back without her so much as showing any remorse for her actions. But by this time she had "broke" him. The one time i met him we got along really well. And somehow i saw my future self in him if i didnt get out... never again.