My BPDex calls only for money not interested in hearing me

[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

Thanks Fred 6 , she has been gone for 3 months and she said she isn't coming back , and she still text or email her needs I need her she needs help with expenses she never worked .

If I move to the other board , and she is not with me how that is going to help me ?

In my opinion, if she said that she isn't coming back, you should move on with your life. If she isn't coming back, she doesn't deserve your help or money. You can't make someone want to be with you if they don't want to be with you. What you can do is to control your future without that person. Stay NC, don't answer her attempts to contact you and you should start moving forward eventually. I know it sucks, but it's better to deal with this now instead of down the road.

[fred6]

Thanks Fred 6 , she has been gone for 3 months and she said she isn't coming back , and she still text or email her needs I need her she needs help with expenses she never worked .

If I move to the other board , and she is not with me how that is going to help me ?

In my opinion, if she said that she isn't coming back, you should move on with your life. If she isn't coming back, she doesn't deserve your help or money. You can't make someone want to be with you if they don't want to be with you. What you can do is to control your future without that person. Stay NC, don't answer her attempts to contact you and you should start moving forward eventually. I know it sucks, but it's better to deal with this now instead of down the road.

[guy4caligirl]

Thanks Fred 6 , she has been gone for 3 months and she said she isn't coming back , and she still text or email her needs I need her she needs help with expenses she never worked .

If I move to the other board , and she is not with me how that is going to help me ?

In my opinion, if she said that she isn't coming back, you should move on with your life. If she isn't coming back, she doesn't deserve your help or money. You can't make someone want to be with you if they don't want to be with you. What you can do is to control your future without that person. Stay NC, don't answer her attempts to contact you and you should start moving forward eventually. I know it sucks, but it's better to deal with this now instead of down the road.

Hi Fred 6 ,she is broke she is a ness no  mrds nothing I still think she would come back she hasn't change a bit would it be  or  if they say that they mean it but the lie all the time ? she is triangeling me I think

[fred6]

Thanks Fred 6 , she has been gone for 3 months and she said she isn't coming back , and she still text or email her needs I need her she needs help with expenses she never worked .

If I move to the other board , and she is not with me how that is going to help me ?

In my opinion, if she said that she isn't coming back, you should move on with your life. If she isn't coming back, she doesn't deserve your help or money. You can't make someone want to be with you if they don't want to be with you. What you can do is to control your future without that person. Stay NC, don't answer her attempts to contact you and you should start moving forward eventually. I know it sucks, but it's better to deal with this now instead of down the road.

Hi Fred 6 ,she is broke she is a ness no  mrds nothing I still think she would come back she hasn't change a bit would it be  or  if they say that they mean it but the lie all the time ? she is triangeling me I think

I think that they lie in order to get what they think they need at the time or to displace their own behaviors. As much as I hate to say it, these are very selfish people that only look out for their own interests. Therefore, we must look out for our own interests. If that means letting them fail on their own, so be it. Even though she's ill to some extent. She has made the decision to leave you. Now you must make the choice to respect her decision and not let her use you for money and favors. Obviously, I don't know her, but I don't think that she will change. If she does, the cycle will continue eventually. There is no right or wrong. You just have to decide when you've had enough of dealing with a disordered individual and the hurt that comes along with that.