The best sex ever.

[jammo1989]

My ex was no holds barred, anything goes, the sex was amazing but it was all about fulfilling your needs and not there's, by fulfilling your needs they could manipulate you into not abandoning them, why would he leave me if the sex was that good? The stuff we did was beyond anything most have experienced, whips chains, submissive, she would do exactly what I said, but here's some food for thought, she's giving you fantasies you would normally only dream about, and she's letting you do what you want, so who's the one that needs to sit back and take a good look at themselves? It's like these BPDs love to be abused and will do anything to fulfill your needs sexually, my ex even called me daddy once during Intercourse, and yes she did have major daddy issues.  If your a healthy human being why get seduced into a twisted fantasy with these people?

[vortex of confusion]

My ex was no holds barred, anything goes, the sex was amazing but it was all about fulfilling your needs and not there's, by fulfilling your needs they could manipulate you into not abandoning them, why would he leave me if the sex was that good?

I think it depends on the person and how things manifest themselves. Mine was only focused on his needs. If I would ask him to take care of my needs, something would happen and things would stop. It was usually because I wasn't reacting the way he thought I should. Or, if I tried to give direction about what did or didn't feel good, he would take it personally and get upset and everything would stop. So, I stopped worrying about my needs and tried to be better. We were and are married. I am of the opinion that two people that are married should try to figure out how to meet each others needs. The only problem is that it was all one sided.

[Deeno02]

My ex was no holds barred, anything goes, the sex was amazing but it was all about fulfilling your needs and not there's, by fulfilling your needs they could manipulate you into not abandoning them, why would he leave me if the sex was that good?

I think it depends on the person and how things manifest themselves. Mine was only focused on his needs. If I would ask him to take care of my needs, something would happen and things would stop. It was usually because I wasn't reacting the way he thought I should. Or, if I tried to give direction about what did or didn't feel good, he would take it personally and get upset and everything would stop. So, I stopped worrying about my needs and tried to be better. We were and are married. I am of the opinion that two people that are married should try to figure out how to meet each others needs. The only problem is that it was all one sided.

One sided for sure. Lay there while i did my thing. After hearing her body dysmorphia speech (5 children) it would just be mechanical.  I didnt care how her body looked, i loved her... .

[jammo1989]

I think my ex was HPD though, there's been a few occasions where I've literally felt weirded out, there was one occasion when she said go on your phone and show me what your favourite porn is (I thought we were going to re in act like some couples do) but instead I put on some lesbian porn, next thing I know she's pleasuring me while I watched the porn, when ever I went to drop the phone to be intimate (as you would) she kept pushing me back down saying no watch the porn I'll sort you out.  Explain that one? Was a very surreal experience considering she was my gf not some hooker I payed to satisy me.

[vortex of confusion]

I think my ex was HPD though, there's been a few occasions where I've literally felt weirded out, there was one occasion when she said go on your phone and show me what your favourite porn is (I thought we were going to re in act like some couples do) but instead I put on some lesbian porn, next thing I know she's pleasuring me while I watched the porn, when ever I went to drop the phone to be intimate (as you would) she kept pushing me back down saying no watch the porn I'll sort you out.  Explain that one? Was a very surreal experience considering she was my gf not some hooker I payed to satisy me.

My husband has definitely weirded me out quite a bit. I went down the rabbit hole with him for a while. His most recent thing was for me to be with other guys and tell him about it. Heck, he even had me call him by my lover's name one time. He is so messed up because he would tell me that he wanted me all to himself again but then would be unable to perform. I am not proud of it but I did a little bit of experimenting and "accidentally" brought up my lover and, BAM, things started working again. I am still living with my husband but I refuse to have sex with him. For the record, I was never promiscuous. I wanted a friend that I could connect with, he wanted me to be his personal ___ that he could get to go do stuff and bring home stories. When I found a friend with benefits, he didn't like that at all and would change his mind constantly about whether or not he was okay with me having a lover. He blames it all on his sex addiction. I still don't understand how a person can be a sex addict and not be turned on by his wife on a regular basis.