Hello Amal,
What a runaround with getting the diagnosis... .Unfortunately it is common to first get a host of different diagnoses before getting to BPD.
My 15 year old daughter has BPD, and is with a dbt therapist who doesn't accept insurance and who is 1.5 hrs away. My d really likes her so we are willing to do whatever it takes to keep her therapy going.
This is great that your dd seems to be willing to work with this therapist - a good therapist fit and the patient's motivation to work hard are the key.
Our local family therapist doesn't know dbt but is very good and is willing to work with us through a book on dbt and how to best respond to our daughter. I know that it is not the best arrangement but we live to far from the dbt family therapist and also could not afford the out of pocket fee for our daughter and us both.
You are definitely doing all you can, and this just might work. The website that Kwamina gave you is a good one, I hope you and your therapist find it helpful.
If you are looking for resources on validation, this is my favorite video in this topic:
https://bpdfamily.blogspot.com/2013/06/validation-encouraging-peace-in-BPD.htmlThere are other ones on validation and a lot of other resources in the right-hand panel
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