How do others deal with the lack of intimacy in a BPD marriage?

[ColdEthyl]

"go or I go" card on this. 

I agree... that seems a bit much for where you are at now.  But somehow... it would seem he needs a harder "shove"

Especially if he hasn't had a full physical in a while... there could be other issues... .blood pressure could be one that affects ED (I think... I'm not DR... but have heard that)

There could be all kinds of things, and he hasn't been to a doctor since he had his accident at work last year. Even then, when he fell out of a tree and a 3rd degree AC joint shoulder separation it took me over 24 hours to convince him to go.

This is just one of those gray areas for me. One one hand, this isn't a good reason to pull a boundary on him for something he can't control physically, but on the other there could be other issues going on that we need to know about. I have pushed about going for checkups, and it doesn't do me any good.

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[formflier]

One one hand, this isn't a good reason to pull a boundary on him for something he can't control physically,

Hey... .just so we get the lingo "right"... .boundary is not the appropriate term here.

A boundary is for you.  Trying to get someone else to do something is a request or a rule... .

[Rapt Reader]

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