Am I Over Thinking This?

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A bit of advice - am I over thinking because of all i have read on here? Quick scenario. Broke up 9 weeks ago from uExBPD girlfriend. She devalued and finally discarded and the brief contact since October 15th has been quite anger fuelled and vitriolic - including when I saw her in the car and she saw me a fortnight ago - she texted ten hours later claiming i and as trying to tether attention - I ignored as per previous posting.

Today my best mate who plays football now and again with one of her  male best friends (whose married) said my ex is as asking after my friend (not in an inappropriate way) and he also sad that my ex was not with anyone. I do find this very difficult to believe as she can't be alone, although find it interesting she is asking or wished to be remembered to my best friend... .is this some indirect contact to find out what I am Up to - that's not my arrogance but I just do t trust as I find it very strange... .I also do know she's not trying to romance my friend as he us 30 years older than her.! Any views?

[confused1730]

A bit of advice - am I over thinking because of all i have read on here? Quick scenario. Broke up 9 weeks ago from uExBPD girlfriend. She devalued and finally discarded and the brief contact since October 15th has been quite anger fuelled and vitriolic - including when I saw her in the car and she saw me a fortnight ago - she texted ten hours later claiming i and as trying to tether attention - I ignored as per previous posting.

Today my best mate who plays football now and again with one of her  male best friends (whose married) said my ex is as asking after my friend (not in an inappropriate way) and he also sad that my ex was not with anyone. I do find this very difficult to believe as she can't be alone, although find it interesting she is asking or wished to be remembered to my best friend... .is this some indirect contact to find out what I am Up to - that's not my arrogance but I just do t trust as I find it very strange... .I also do know she's not trying to romance my friend as he us 30 years older than her.! Any views?

[EaglesJuju]

I do not know if she doing that to indirectly reengage.  What do you hope to seek by finding out her intentions?  Do you want her to reengage?

[confused1730]

No I don't but I am intrigued. The seeing me in a car and then 10 hours later sending please refrain from driving dangerously nonsense (remember I did not reply) and then the asking after my friend... .it all seems a bit coincidental.

[confused1730]

Any take on this scenario folks - this site has been such a help so far. Has anyone a view on the above... .? appreciate it is difficult!

[MrConfusedWithItAll]

I guess it is possible she is trying to re-engage.  If she is out of supply you could expect her to do so.  My advice is to try and not ruminate about it.  The only way you can know for sure is to ask her - which will be giving away the control you have with NC.

[confused1730]

Thanks I will remain NC - I suppose I am questioning whether these types are quite indirect and keep tabs on some way rather than some full on re-engagement ... .the kind of keeping an eye on what the ex's are doing if - like I have gone NC?