i wanted to leave and he is ok with it

[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

this is the first time he is ok with it. he was acting very rude to me for a few days. we are in different cities now and i asked him that if i come to near him for a week and he didnt wanted to. and after that, after i felt terrible about it, i wanted to break up but it was just to scare him. but first time he said ok. he said i love you but we cant do it, i dont want to hurt you anymore bla bla bla... .

he is like a grown man for now. i feel miserable. i think he found someone else. i am all lost.

[ilmatar]

this is the first time he is ok with it. he was acting very rude to me for a few days. we are in different cities now and i asked him that if i come to near him for a week and he didnt wanted to. and after that, after i felt terrible about it, i wanted to break up but it was just to scare him. but first time he said ok. he said i love you but we cant do it, i dont want to hurt you anymore bla bla bla... .

he is like a grown man for now. i feel miserable. i think he found someone else. i am all lost.

[EaglesJuju]

Hi Ilmatar,

It sounds like you are going through a very confusing and upsetting situation.    Living apart from a person with BPD is very hard.  Do you live very far away from your pwBPD?

You mentioned that you think your SO found someone else. What is making you think that?

Perhaps you can share more of your story so we can help you better. 

[Mutt]

Hi Ilmatar,



I'm sorry to hear that. It's hard when someone you care about invalidates. I'm sorry to hear he has you worried with cheating. It helps to talk.

Hang in there.

--Mutt