2 years later - proof he has got worse not better

[Popcorn71]

Two years ago my xBPDh began to behave in a way that ultimately led to him dumping me for the replacement a few months later.  Throughout our 9 years together he seemed to always have a bit of a meltdown from xmas to feb.

Anyway since he left he has appeared to be happy with the replacement although i have sometimes doubted this is true.  But this weekend something happened that clearly shows he is not happy and has become even more volatile and violent than he was just before he left.

My daughter and her friends happened to be at the same bar as my ex and his new family.  She didnt ackowledge him at all. But he went to her and started asking how i am.  My daughter said she didnt want to speak to him and at that point she said his face changed.  Her friend became concerned and stood between them and told him to leave my daughter alone.  He then pushed my daughters friend and punched a young man who went to help her. All the time he was calling them vile names.

Apparently the replacement was shocked and began to make exvuses for him and deny that he had done anything wrong.

Later people told my daughter that they had seen my ex fighting in another pub before this happened.

I think this shows he is not happy and struggling to cope.  He is now mpre violent than ever.  Picking fights with women and men who are 35 years younger is not going to do him any good.  He is now gaining a name for himself as a loser and a nuisance.

It is interesting to see that the replacement is defending him as i once did.  I can see that she is trying to cling on to the notion thst he is a fun loving good guy as this is who he has been pretending to be until now.  But the mask is slipping.

I am so pleased that he is no longer my problem.  This has proved to me that this is who he really is.  He will never change.  It was him who was the problem all along - not me!

[fromheeltoheal]

Hey Popcorn-

I'm assuming that you're in the UK, and here in the States all it would take is someone to press charges and then he's doing jail time.  I've read there are an excessive amount of people with undiagnosed, and diagnosed, personality disorders in jail, and maybe that will be your next update?  I hope he finds a way to chill out before he goes that far, but you never know... .

[Popcorn71]

Here in the UK its not that easy to press charges.  He beat my son who was 14 years old at the time and although we had photos and police attended on the night it happened when we tried to press charges a few months later we were refused.  The other night the man who was punched went to the police but all they would do was 'have a word' with my ex.  Unfortunately there is no deterent to his behaviour until somebody gets seriously hurt.  At this rate i think it will be him because he is picking gights with big young men and he is a 60 year old unfit man.

[enlighten me]

My ex potrays this wonderful image to her friends that she is so happy with her new boyfriend yet she has apparently been sleeping with her landlord. This is no suprise to me as he has been around there quite a few times when ive dropped my son off. Ive not seen him but his van was there and her bedroom curtains were drawn so I put two and two together. I heard latter that a woman confronted her in the school playground about it and called her a slappee. She went into hiding for a couple of weeks but has resurfaced again.

I find it funny now and cant wait to see what she does next to screw things up.

[myself]

Kick a beehive, find comeuppance.

PwBPD have so much pain inside, they're drawn to it on the outside.

Can't find any? Create their own!

[downwhim]

Well, maybe she will get some free rent! Her landlord really. How pathetic can that be? She didn't need to go to far to replace the replacement... .

[enlighten me]

No she's not replaced him. Just cheating on.  It has its perks for her. I did find it strange that her landlord helped her move out of mine. Its going to be interesting though as her boyfriend is apparently moving to the area.