shes moving...

[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

So she finally messeged me... to tell me she's moving. I guess she feels like no one understands her and that everyone judges her... .She is going to try to sell her paid of house to afford the move. She has no education. As she has failed out of her first semester twice now. I pulled strings to get her her job. She won't be able to get anything else.

Does watching someone self destruct ever get any easier?

[rapror496]

So she finally messeged me... to tell me she's moving. I guess she feels like no one understands her and that everyone judges her... .She is going to try to sell her paid of house to afford the move. She has no education. As she has failed out of her first semester twice now. I pulled strings to get her her job. She won't be able to get anything else.

Does watching someone self destruct ever get any easier?

[Heldfast]

Yes it does. You are watching the train leave the station, knowing it is doomed to wreck, and hard. You cannot help it, you cannot save it, all you can do is let it go, knowing you do not want to be on it when it wrecks. In time, you will know that the only person between the two of you who can be saved by you, is you. Read up on detaching, read up on BPD, get to learn and love yourself, and beware the eventual recycle.