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Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse... Have you considered that being critical, judgmental, or invalidating toward the other parent, no matter what she or he just did will only make matters worse? Someone has to be do something. This means finding the motivation to stop making things worse, learning how to interrupt your own negative responses, body language, facial expressions, voice tone, and learning how to inhibit your urges to do things that you later realize are contributing to the tensions.
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Take the Pledge (check all that you can commit to).
My child's parent has a mental illness. I acknowledge that they have real and legitimate impairments to their social skills. |
I will learn about the disorder so that I may emotionally detach and navigate around their dysfunction. |
I have a role in any “cycle of conflict” between me and my child's parent. I will abandon that role. |
My child's welfare is a higher priority to me than achieving fairness or justice with my child's parent. |
I acknowledge that parenting can be stressful and I commit to taking care of myself so that I have the strength to be there for my kids. |
The social environment in which my child is raised contributes to their long-term emotional, psychological, and social well-being. I take responsibility for my contribution. |
Parenting skills requires love, motivation, validation, boundaries, and structure. |
I will help my kids develop healthy boundaries and coping skills for when difficult situations arise. |
Role-modeling is the most powerful tool available to teach my child or children positive ways to become an emotionally resilient and healthy person. |
To be a role model requires strength, commitment, patience, and self-awareness. I accept the responsibility to examine and advance my own life and parenting skills . |
I welcome challenges from BPDFamily.com members, even when the question and challenge may be emotionally upsetting. |
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