Hello netscoutfl, and
You've mentioned her running off. Are you still in this relationship? Living together when she's around, perhaps?
Being told that the problem lies with you can definitely get to you after a long time. I think most of us here have been the targets of
Projection.
As for your question "will they fade away," that's uncertain unless she is actually diagnosed and in treatment, and even then it really depends upon her commitment to therapy and change.
I hope to hear more how best we can support you, netscoutfl.
Turkish
