Fast forward a few years later and she denies ever telling me I needed to get one even though she made me make the appointment!
She's dissociating = remembering things differently - lying. Altering reality to match her out of place feelings.
Common behaviour:
- Daydreaming, fasing out = dissociation
- depersonalised sex = dissociation
- "Black and White" thinking = dissociation
- Self mutilation, cutting = dissociation
- Remembering things differently than others do, lying = dissociation
- Raging = dissociation
We all have our occasional dissociation in the form of daydreaming, meditation, dancing on music until we get in a trance state... .But I believe BPD's do it quite often without having control over it as we do; and their dissociation does not limit itself to occasional daydreaming; it has a lot of different faces.
If the feelings of the BPD do not match the situation or reality, the BPD will alter the situation/reality to the point it does match. They do this because they do not want to be confronted with their out-of-place feelings.
BPD BEHAVIORS: Dissociation and DysphoriaMy ex asked that I get a vasectomy; she said that she wants me to get a vasectomy and her not a hysterectomy. I was married 8 years - our third child was born and the writing was on the wall with my marriage. I thought perhaps I want another child with another woman. I said "no". Less than a year later she said she wanted a divorce and left and almost two years later she's pregnant with her boyfriend.
I don't think that her motivation was to keep me in the marriage. She had a daughter from a previous relationship and she said no more kids.
Now it could be she wanted a child with him, accidental, feared he was going to abandon her? I don't know, I do know she lacks impulse control. I made the right choice at the time with not having a hysterectomy because I sensed the marriage was in serious trouble. I didn't want to regret a chance not having another child with someone else.
