It's confusing and difficult when she wants a celibate relationship. She doesn't want to move it to friendship; yet she flirts on the phone. It's ambivalent.
Push / pull behavior is hard.
You may or may not be stuck. Do you think it's a matter of sorting out how you feel? Is she making it harder for you because of the mixed messages?
She wants to see the kids, I know she loves them. i struggle with what amount of contact is healthy for them and her. I also wish i could just "move on" yet don't seem to be able to.
It's also about unconditional love the kids have for her.
You know her best than anyone on the boards. She wanted visitation, is she not good with the kids?