To your question what goals i have set?
For starters I am going to take care of my health,I have lost significant amount weight and some health issues which needs to be taken care of by proper diet and healthy routine.
I have been detached from really good friends and family who love memo img to get involved with them go out... hang out ... start some group activity together.
I really need to focus in my career,I have just got my grad degree from college so I need to take some exams to start my practice professionally .
These are great goals to have and you have a good plan in place. Being around friends and having fun helps.
Congratulations on your degree. That is a huge accomplishment.
I am thinking about going in therapy... I really feel I need to cause I have been through so much damage internally ... my close friends tell me now and then that I have changed and I m not the person I was once ... I notice it too in me...
Therapy is one of the best ways to work on your core issues. If you feel that this is a good option, you should look into therapy. Therapy has immensely helped me.
I am not the same person... I get depressed easily,I over think simple things,I rach in to negative consequences way too soon before even judging the situation on hand... I feel this constant paranoia that people are talking about me and they don't wish me well,I was having self esteem issues lately(I m quite over then now)but I feel that I haven't overcome them completely ... like I m not capable of clearing my exams ... I felt I wasn't pretty enough(when I mentioned it to one of my friend she was shocked ).
I am sorry that you are feeling this way.
Coping with BPD behaviors can really take a toll on you after awhile and eat away at your self-esteem.
I have felt exactly the same way and I still have days where my self-esteem is lousy.
Positive self-talk helps with that. When I have a negative thought about myself, I think of a positive thought to counter the negative thought.
I haven't talked about this to any one... I never let it show but things have developed in me while I was with my BPDbf and there's this other thing that I have noticed in me is that I get startled easily now as in if someone talks loudly or in a raised tone or voice I would get startled and drop things or start shivering just for few minutes but it happens...
I wasn't like this I was carefree and very bubbly person who people loved to hangout ... very outgoing and jolly ... I have changed ...
It's not too much but it's there I can feel it.i have gotten better as in since last month I started taking time for myself ... I started to bring the person I was once fearless and optimistic ... that's when my BPDbf started getting dysregulated and I lost my senses...
Maybe this is what caused the trigger but I decided it then that I have to take care of myself along trying to not feel my BPDbf invalidate...
I am glad you are feeling better.
It will take time, but you are on a path to improving yourself.
Is there any other alternative to work on my issues if I can't go in to therapy because where I m from therapy isn't a easy option or commodity to avail ...
Although I do go to therapy, I have been practicing mindfulness and DBT techniques. Mindfulness has worked for a lot of PTSD symptoms I have experienced such as increased startle responses, panic attacks, alleviating triggers, and increased anxiety. From practicing mindfulness, I have become more focused and relaxed.
Here is an article on mindfulness to get you started
TOOLS: Triggering, Mindfulness, and the Wise Mind