Welcome to bpdfamily hopeforlove,
You have come to a good place with a great group of people who really understand.
This is a large website with many older active users who can offer their support, experience and wisdom. Most times it's wisdom painfully learned.
Being in a relationship with someone who has the traits of BPD is upsetting and confusing. However there are lessons and tools that help make sense of it, and give you the skills to react better to the complexities of a BPD relationship. I really hope you spend some time reading the lessons on the right hand side of the page.
Like you when I first got here I was hurt, confused, and nearly out of my mind trying to figure out what the heck was going on with me, my partner, and in our relationship. The level of chaos had reached incredible proportions. My partner is diagnosed with Bipolar 1 but has many of traits of BPD including the emotional and behavioral instability.
One of the symptoms of emotional instability is the belief that the emotions of the moment are totally accurate and will last forever. Couple this together with the highly intense emotions that pwBPD have, you can see why thing get confusing fast.
anOught said a lot of good things. Including the helpful link to the Lessons.
Nobody can tell you the answer here - this is for you to decide. however it always makes sense to educate yourself more in a first step.
You have the opportunity to use these resources and these boards. I have learned a lot here on this site, and in individual therapy, that has helped my relationship significantly.
keep posting and let us know how you are doing. we care.
'ducks