We are survivors. They haven't broken us

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

Y'all, like many of y'all, I feel deep nostalgia for what was.

But there is one thing that I am starting to see.

We are SURVIVORS. We were not defeated. And we will not be defeated. We refuse to be broken by this disorder. It will not defeat us.

Together we stand. Not as victims, but as Survivors.

Yours


~Reece

[Reecer1588]

Y'all, like many of y'all, I feel deep nostalgia for what was.

But there is one thing that I am starting to see.

We are SURVIVORS. We were not defeated. And we will not be defeated. We refuse to be broken by this disorder. It will not defeat us.

Together we stand. Not as victims, but as Survivors.

Yours


~Reece

[Blimblam]

I was broken and defeated the sooner I accepted this the sooner real healing began.

[Reecer1588]

Y'all, like many of y'all, I feel deep nostalgia for what was.

But there is one thing that I am starting to see.

We are SURVIVORS. We were not defeated (in the end). And we will not be defeated forever. We refuse to be broken by this disorder forever. It defeated us in the past, but never again.

Together we stand. Not as victims, but as Survivors.

Yours


~Reece


I agree with your post. Therefore I modified.

[fromheeltoheal]

You've shifted a lot in the last few days Reecer; good for you!

[Reecer1588]

You've shifted a lot in the last few days Reecer; good for you!

Thank you. I've got the dreaded day 80 of NC coming soon.

Day 55 today.

Looking forward to the 100 day milestone.

[mitatsu]

But we are broken by our own issues... .but unlike 'them' we can see this and make changes to improve ourselves...

[Blimblam]

PwBPD can make improvements too but for them it is much more difficult.

[clydegriffith]

I agree. I went face to face with Pure Evil and survived to tell my story. I won, I conqured the Beast.

[llor]

Y'all, like many of y'all, I feel deep nostalgia for what was.

But there is one thing that I am starting to see.

We are SURVIVORS. We were not defeated. And we will not be defeated. We refuse to be broken by this disorder. It will not defeat us.

Together we stand. Not as victims, but as Survivors.

Yours


~Reece

That kept me going :

Invictus.

Out of the night that covers me,

Black as the pit from pole to pole,

I thank whatever gods may be

For my unconquerable soul.

In the fell clutch of circumstance

I have not winced nor cried aloud.

Under the bludgeonings of chance

My head is bloody, but unbowed.

Beyond this place of wrath and tears

Looms but the Horror of the shade,

And yet the menace of the years

Finds and shall find me unafraid.

It matters not how strait the gate,

How charged with punishments the scroll,

I am the master of my fate,

I am the captain of my soul.

[Invictus01]

Y'all, like many of y'all, I feel deep nostalgia for what was.

But there is one thing that I am starting to see.

We are SURVIVORS. We were not defeated. And we will not be defeated. We refuse to be broken by this disorder. It will not defeat us.

Together we stand. Not as victims, but as Survivors.

Yours


~Reece

That kept me going :

Invictus.

Out of the night that covers me,

Black as the pit from pole to pole,

I thank whatever gods may be

For my unconquerable soul.

In the fell clutch of circumstance

I have not winced nor cried aloud.

Under the bludgeonings of chance

My head is bloody, but unbowed.

Beyond this  place of wrath and tears

Looms but the Horror of the shade,

And yet the menace of the years

Finds and shall find me unafraid.

It matters not how strait the gate,

How charged with punishments the scroll,

I am the master of my fate,

I am the captain of my soul.

Guess where my screen name is coming from... .

[Mutt]

Y'all, like many of y'all, I feel deep nostalgia for what was.

But there is one thing that I am starting to see.

We are SURVIVORS. We were not defeated. And we will not be defeated. We refuse to be broken by this disorder. It will not defeat us.

Together we stand. Not as victims, but as Survivors.

Yours


~Reece

Hi Reecer1588,

You are a survivor.

One of the most valuable lessons my ex partner with BPD traits is accepting of how things are and whom she is. Whereas I was resistant, non accepting and took her behaviors personal. I think a part of being a survivor is letting go, learn about the disorder to make sense, depersonalize the disorder and work on ourselves and relationship patterns.

I don't think it's so much about thinking about defeated but growth and become soft instead of rigid and hard.

“Water is fluid, soft, and yielding. But water will wear away rock, which is rigid and cannot yield. As a rule, whatever is fluid, soft, and yielding will overcome whatever is rigid and hard. This is another paradox: what is soft is strong. -Lao Tzu