dread

[Smileypants]

Monday is our 3rd Wedding Anniversary.  We've been together since 2006.  I am dreading it.  I am so on the edge of being done and now I have to play happy couple.  Then we are also completely broke, so were going to fight about that, then we are going to fight about how I couldn't find a sitter, then were going to fight about me walking away.  How can I even pretend to be happy?  Stressed!

[Mutt]

Hi Smileypants,

I'm sorry your going through this.

You feel like you're walking on eggshells with anniversaries and the impending fights

I recall the dread and anxiety.

Has your SO been hostile this weekend?

[bluejeans]

I can relate. I have a 9th anniversary coming up soon with great expectations from her about where we will go. It will cost a lot and she says we will split the cost. That may or may not happen. We are not very happy these days so I don't feel like celebrating. I am already feeling resentful about it.

[Smileypants]

I have come to dread any type holiday, event or get together.

He has been very hostile.  Not just towards me but towards the kids as well.  He doesn't seem to actually care about the kids well being, he just cares about how their behavior makes him look.  He always says how this is so embarrassing, or how embarrassed he is.  Not what is causing the kids to act out, not how we can help then cope better... .