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Some days I just don't want to be around "normal people". The average person does not get what its like to deal with disordered people. I get so sick of trying to explain anything and everything. Its like I tell a friend something ex did and they will say" that's stupid why would he do that, say that?". My default answer is " because a healthy person wouldn't". There is no reasonable explanation for their thinking. Or people who say" just get along, don't let him do that, when are you going to let go, etc". I really want to say " what would you do, what do you suggest?". My aunt told me the other day that we should keep our issues with daughter out of court, she said " you just need to end all this" I asked her how can I make him, what can I do or say to change his behavior. Of course she was stumped. Then when I stay calm, don't react, stay reasonable and logical people constantly say " go slash his tires, tell him to ___ off, just tell him he's a loser, etc, if I was you I would be flipping out". I get to the point where I don't want to talk about it at all. Then if you don't talk you become isolated. Ugh.
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I have that problem as well. It feels like you are going through life alone at times. Or that people are just stupid. I always get "why not just talk about it with him", or "Tell him off" and in my head I am saying "because you can not rationalize with a crazy person". Stay srong. The whole reason for me joining this site is so I can just talk to people who understand.
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