I don't think that extra time will make much of a difference, we are still in contact. When we were doing NC, time was healing. When we are in contact, it's just a continuation of the relationship and I miss him.
Ironically? Literally two hours after I sent him that text, he calls me up on the phone to ask if I'm okay and to tell me that he loves me very much.
It seems like a pattern. Rage. Validation and/or limit. 2h pass, Calmly calls me up, either explains how he felt or simply asks if I'm okay and tells me how much he cares about me.
This is the third time it's happened like that.
You have the right to do what is right for you. Only you can decide that.
I'm new with this, so I don't want to sound like I know everything. My uBPDgf will talk to me that way, and I've finally decided I can't take it anymore. I know about the validation stuff, but you know, quit being a jerk! I have just started saying something like, "This conversation is hurtful, and I don't feel respected. I would like to hear your feelings when the conversation can be respectful." Then, for me, I tell her to let me know when she wants to talk, that I will take her lead. It had worked so far, but I'm sure it won't at some point, but at least I won't be sitting around being treated like crap, right? All that to say, have you considered something like that, just gently but firmly calling him on his crap?