i read this and it just made my stomache turn with a reality check. I want to know tho, what about if your partner keeps doing the same thing over and over to cause this... .ie/ starts a family with you and yet is still rarely ever around which enhances the sense of abandonment and so much time passes thinking about needing help with the kids and reconnecting as a couple and i wait patiently but he doesnt acknowledge my sadness because he is never around and then i get angry after i have waited long enough for some family time. how am i the bad person because i have BPD traits when others arent helping the situation at all?
this article seems to be such an attack on the BPD person and im not sure i can find any sources to support both sides not just one side.
side note im not diagnosed BPD rather with anxiety/depression which upon learning more about BPD i realize that i have not been correctly diagnosed or treated hence why my issue with my emotions has not ever improved.
Thank you for the post. I believe that I have often learned a lot about myself through my relationships with others, if I have taken the time to reflect on and evaluate my own thoughts, emotions, and actions in the relationships, and my relationship with my uBPDgf is no exception -- lots of reality checks for me along the way.
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Staying Board, reflecting on and committing to better manage our own contributions to conflict in the relationship is a recommended
first step.