Is there a better board for topic regarding a ub-dil?

[whiplashed_mom]

I am not parenting a child with BPD, but I don't see many posts from mil's of bp's.

[Harri]

Hi there.  I just did a quick review of your past posts to get a better feel for your situation and I think you are right that few posts on this board would be helpful in your situation (though please do keep posting as you choose since you do have what i consider a 'forced' relationship with a BPD).  

I think you might benefit more from reading and posting at the parenting section.  Your DIL may not be your child but she is in a relationship with your son.  Additionally, it sounds like her family are more than a bit difficult to deal with.  I think the you will find similar stories at the parenting board.  I read there a lot to learn how to deal with my brother, SIL and her family and to learn how to parent and talk to my own inner child.  There are many posters on that board who have managed to foster better and more healthy relationships with their kids and can probably give you some great advice in addition to being able to relate to your situation.

Peace to you and yours,

Harri

ETA:  You might also benefit from reading/posting on the staying board.  Again, there are different specifics but I think the situations might be similar enough.

[whiplashed_mom]

Thank you for your time and considered answer Harri!