CauseI can breath and start to love myself and realize my own codependant tendencies.
EffectI have noticed here for a vast majority that it is the BPD that suddenly breaks it off without closure.
But it's awesome that you're able to recognize your codependency--that's the most important step to healing. Really, BPD and Codependency are way more similar than most of us here are comfortable admitting. The only real difference is that the Codependent identifies fulfilling their need (to be needed) with a single source; the pwBPD, who seems needier, is able to get their need (to be cared for) met by any number of sources.
We can chalk it up to 'morality' or 'loyalty' or 'honor' to bolster up our sense of superiority--but at the end of the day, our ability to introspect and change ourselves is really the only thing that separates us (literally and figuratively) from the pwBPD.
CauseI can breath and start to love myself and realize my own codependant tendencies.
EffectI have noticed here for a vast majority that it is the BPD that suddenly breaks it off without closure.
But it's awesome that you're able to recognize your codependency--that's the most important step to healing. Really, BPD and Codependency are way more similar than most of us here are comfortable admitting. The only real difference is that the Codependent identifies fulfilling their need (to be needed) with a single source; the pwBPD, who seems needier, is able to get their need (to be cared for) met by any number of sources.
We can chalk it up to 'morality' or 'loyalty' or 'honor' to bolster up our sense of superiority--but at the end of the day, our ability to introspect and change ourselves is really the only thing that separates us (literally and figuratively) from the pwBPD.
thank you! I can't agree with you more it's hard to see but I am seeing it more and more as I get weird texts here and there that totally validates what I have been feeling for the past year. Getting a real good support system really helps. My sister has been staying with me and I have been busy. Particularly painting fine art. Thanks for your post!