BPD Marriage/seperation

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I am in a marriage of 1 1/2 years. We have been seperated for 5 of those months. She has been diagnosed with BPD since then. Our therapist says she needs the space to work on herself, yet she insists I move back in. Who should I follow?

[Lazerwolfe]

I am in a marriage of 1 1/2 years. We have been seperated for 5 of those months. She has been diagnosed with BPD since then. Our therapist says she needs the space to work on herself, yet she insists I move back in. Who should I follow?

[enlighten me]

Hi Lazerwolf

Welcome to the family.

Im sorry you are going through this.

Its difficult to say as both have benefits and both have pitfalls. What is your gut feeling on this?

It may be worthwhile posting on the staying board or the undecided. The leaving board is more for those where the relationship is over and they have either separated or in the process.

EM

[Mutt]

Hi Lazerwolfe,



I'm sorry to hear that. Separation's tough.

Do you trust your T's advice?

She wants you to move back in, has she mentioned CBT, schema therapy, group therapy?

It helps to talk.


Hang in there,


----Mutt

[Lazerwolfe]

Thanks for the encouragement and advice. I struggle but I know others do too. I will continue using this site and hopefully I will be able to narrow down a decision.

[OnceConfused]

With you being the trigger of her BPD, she will be hard pressed to change. It is like trying to lose weight but you live with a cook who makes cakes and steaks every night.

[unicorn2014]

Hi Lazer and welcome to the family!   Do you trust your therapist? Do you think your  therapist is qualified to treat a person with BPD? If yes, then I think it would be wise to follow your therapist's advice. A person with BPD will push and push to get what they want, but that might not be in the best interests of everyone involved. What do your instincts tell you?