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[JamieMarie23]

I was involved with a guy for the last 7 months, and I cannot even begin to describe how mentally exhausting it was for me, and him.

Bry was unlike any other guy I've met; open, honest, sincere, kind. At the time we started talking, I had no idea how involved and deep I would get into someone's life.

March 11th was a day that changed his life, and mine. He was suicidal, and I had no idea why. I tried to comfort him, and tell him it will be okay, but I knew he needed more than just that, so I dialed his local crisis hotline, and they came and took him away to a mental health clinic where they later diagnosed him with Borderline Personality Disorder.

I did my research soon after, and I knew what I was getting myself into.

All the way from March until now, there was a lot of reassuring, lots of breakdowns, lots of self doubt (him, not me), but I knew I loved him, and I wanted to be his savior.

I even decided to lose my virginity to him, which I don't regret.

September rolled around, and I was making plans to move to North Carolina to be with him and help him more, but he ended up breaking up with me, and he put all of the blame on me, saying "You never loved me enough, you never cared, I tried to make things works, etc."

I know I shouldn't take what he said seriously, but it still hurts. I thought I did everything I possibly could to make him happy, and make things work. I cared more about his well being than my own, and I'm just really struggling here to heal and move on.

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[an0ught]

Hi Jamie,

All the way from March until now, there was a lot of reassuring, lots of breakdowns, lots of self doubt (him, not me), but I knew I loved him, and I wanted to be his savior.

It is difficult to save someone who is repeatedly setting himself up to be saved. The more you rescue the bigger the problems become. It will never be enough.

September rolled around, and I was making plans to move to North Carolina to be with him and help him more, but he ended up breaking up with me, and he put all of the blame on me, saying "You never loved me enough, you never cared, I tried to make things works, etc."

I know I shouldn't take what he said seriously, but it still hurts. I thought I did everything I possibly could to make him happy, and make things work. I cared more about his well being than my own, and I'm just really struggling here to heal and move on.

A real risk is to exhaust our energy and loose ourselves. One of the hardest things to do in these relationships is standing by yourself.

You are still in contact?

,

a0

[JamieMarie23]

I haven't talked to him in a few days, and that's when he told me he could never get back together with me, because of the blame he put on me. He also added that I didn't trust him, which is Bull, but I'm going to lay off contact.

He has another girlfriend (twice now since last month).