just broke up with BPD girlfriend. Not sure what to do. Lot's of love and pain.

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We always had an amazing sex life. She said her husband and her before me never had sex so cheating on him with me had awoken her. we had an 18 month relationship and lived together. She recently cheated on me and when I confronted her she was angry and showed no remorse. I KNOW she will call sobbing as usual after her destructive acts of behavior. I have been non-stop crying because I think about what we could have had if this could have been treated and saved earlier.

WHAT DO I DO WHEN SHE CALLS?

[shebrokeme]

We always had an amazing sex life. She said her husband and her before me never had sex so cheating on him with me had awoken her. we had an 18 month relationship and lived together. She recently cheated on me and when I confronted her she was angry and showed no remorse. I KNOW she will call sobbing as usual after her destructive acts of behavior. I have been non-stop crying because I think about what we could have had if this could have been treated and saved earlier.

WHAT DO I DO WHEN SHE CALLS?

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[Grey Kitty]

  Man, that is a tough time. I was there a year ago myself.

Your question: What do you do when she calls? Here is one possibility... .don't answer.

You say you've heard her sobbing and trying to get back with you after doing something really destructive to you or you relationship before. You don't have an obligation to listen to it.

And if you are pretty sure you won't deal with it well, not subjecting yourself to it is a good choice for now.

Do you have real life friends and/or family you can talk to about it?

It was an 18 month relationship and you lived together. When did you (or she?) move out?

[captnnemo]

This has happened to me repeatedly and we have children. I think she has been talking to men our entire relationship and says that i'm too controlling yet i can't do it. Not that i want to. I think she resents that i get insecure and angry about it. since i had a baby with her she doesn't call begging me back anymore just pushes me away because she sees me trying to be close. Its crazy and draining. its one rule for one and none for the other I'm afraid.