After you breakup from a longterm relationship with a BPD .

[Itstopsnow]

I was in an 18 month intense relationship with a Man who has definite signs of BPD. We went on 5 major trips, also many weekend get aways. It was all so exciting. He felt like my best friend and soul mate. He was super clingy and at first It overwhelmed me but then I got used to and helping him with everything. Then he started devaluing me all the time calling me stupid and idiot and F**cking B___. Always having fights with me over small things and being controlling and demanding. Even spit in my face at the end. It was a horrible ending and so out of control. He changed careers 4 times in 18 months and was a Priest when I first met him. He claimed he wanted out to have a family of his own. But the further he was out the more impulsive with spending and gambling and nasty with me he got. I was wondering now that he is dating online . Since I was the first girl he dated in 10 years will his new relationships end faster and with the same or more destructive chaos than ours did? I know no one can know for sure but I was wondering if anyone new or is a BPD that got out of a long term and had worse or better success in their next relationships? He wasn't overly sexually. I thought it was a hang up from the priesthood. He would really on have straight sex with me no foreplay and didn't like to give or even receive oral sex. Not sure what that was about. Not a generous lover. I don't understand why I am hurting so much. I feel abandoned and rejected. So many times we almost broke up and he would cry and I took him back and now he is not coming back. I feel used.  :'( Please anyone help me.

[Herodias]

I was with mine for 8 years... .My understanding is that they repeat the same pattern with the next person. They may mirror their behavior and act like them, which cause you to think they are different, but ultimately they repeat the behavior they do not have years of therapy. Mine seems to be repeating our r/s as I can see what's happening via FB. I think when we divorce in Jan. he will marry her. Stinks... .but I know I am better off and this gf who stupidly cheated on her husband with mine, will learn what karma is really about.