I've read your information but it makes no sense, even as recently as Saturday she stated that id destroyed her dream life, the reality it was her with the police eposides which were too much for me.
Help me understand please anyone
Wow.
Blaming you makes sense in that she doesn't have to face herself as the cause of her own downfall. That is not at all unusual. The more you defend, the more credibility you give it - the more you expose her, the more she needs to shift it to you. I'd keep it simple, she made three false DV calls - you can't run the risk of a fourth.
She revealled that she had BPD as i knew, but also had scitzophenia with developing npd
This is really serious - Schizophrenia - have you seens signs of this?