Struggling not to contact on the holiday

[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

 I've had no contact for about a week. Would  a simple Happy Thanksgiving text be inappropriate?

[jTrue426]

 I've had no contact for about a week. Would  a simple Happy Thanksgiving text be inappropriate?

[hopealways]

It's not that it's inappropriate, but maintaining NC is the best way to start healing.

[guy4caligirl]

Take it this way , you give her more power to reject you .

Are you sure you need that in your life now ?

I will stick with NC and let her wonder and perhaps she will , but don't count on it much , happy thanks giving to you !

[Joem678]

When you communicate in any way during NC, you are hitting the reset button.

[Rameses]

When you communicate in any way during NC, you are hitting the reset button.

Great way to put it!

And in my experience it gets tougher after each reset.

[jTrue426]

I buckled.  The holiday was too much (or it was just me). I texted my ex - SO. No response from her of course.

[butterfly15]

I buckled.  The holiday was too much (or it was just me). I texted my ex - SO. No response from her of course.

I wanted to do the same. However, I couldn't bare not getting a response. As I know I wouldn't so I didn't contact him. How do you feel that you did not get a response back?

[jTrue426]

I buckled.  The holiday was too much (or it was just me). I texted my ex - SO. No response from her of course.

I wanted to do the same. However, I couldn't bare not getting a response. As I know I wouldn't so I didn't contact him. How do you feel that you did not get a response back?

I guess I feel exactly how I thought I would:  The same but a little worse, due to one more non-response.

[C.Stein]

I wanted to do the same. However, I couldn't bare not getting a response. As I know I wouldn't so I didn't contact him.

I wanted to as well, but she asked me to not text/call anymore and I have to respect her request.  Wouldn't matter either way, she wouldn't respond anyhow ... .I have been deleted.

[butterfly15]

I buckled.  The holiday was too much (or it was just me). I texted my ex - SO. No response from her of course.

I wanted to do the same. However, I couldn't bare not getting a response. As I know I wouldn't so I didn't contact him. How do you feel that you did not get a response back?

I guess I feel exactly how I thought I would:  The same but a little worse, due to one more non-response.

I feel the struggle I face daily with my choice to not have contact is real. However, I know that he is doing whatever. I don't know if pwBPD forget about us or not but I know him enough to know that he would have ignored me. It would have hurt. It hurt not to contact him too.