I've made the mistake of identifying cause and effect and suggested solutions. As Grey Kitty says, "No good will come of this."
Yep. This is a "keep my mouth shut" area, because this is basically telling my wife something she already knows. She hates that.
Every doctor tells her she needs to eat better and exercise more. The pain doctors, the GPs, and the psychologists. She has a gym membership that she never uses. She has prepaid yoga classes that she never goes to. She has yoga equipment at home that she never uses. Yet, she wanted to look at exercise bikes the other day . She will complain of pain and having nothing to do. She has something to do, she just doesn't want to do it. Every once in awhile, she will make a statement about needing to exercise more as a means of helping her issues. She knows what she needs to do, so I try to stay 100% out of it.
The latest doctor to tell her to exercise is a fertility doctor. W and I are both 40, and both want to have children, so we saw a fertility doctor to see if it was even possible. Dr. put our chances at 1% if we tried without any assistance, and basically told us that the results of tests on her and on me mean that IVF is really our best option. And IVF is $$$. Dr. gave us tons of info, and even said IVF only has about a 25% success rate for couples of our age, and that we need to do everything we can to take care of our bodies to have the best chance of success. That means, eating well, and 30 mins. of exercise per day. yet despite how much my wife wants to have a child, she STILL won't exercise.
