need new responses to his symptoms

[Depression = 72% of members]

I live with a man with ADHD and, I now think, BPD.  I realize that my responses have actually re-enforced his BPD.  I need to heal; I need compassion for the past; I need to develop better responses but also find ways to soothe myself when he has flair ups.  Thank you.

[Suzanne Lioni]

I live with a man with ADHD and, I now think, BPD.  I realize that my responses have actually re-enforced his BPD.  I need to heal; I need compassion for the past; I need to develop better responses but also find ways to soothe myself when he has flair ups.  Thank you.

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[unicorn2014]

Welcome Suzanne,   I can relate to what you're saying. 

The posters here can help you find new responses to the person you're living with.

Perhaps you can give us an example of something you're facing?