Oh,... .and the funny thing was that then my wife made a big deal of locking her phone and keeping her password for gmail. Like it was going to crush me. We used to share them freely. I almost never looked. She would regularly snoop.
Anyway, she told me this in a "haha!" way. I just said "ok"... and went about my business.
To date I haven't locked my phone. We've discussed it many times and I've told her I think it's a betrayal to snoop through the phone. I did it with my ex (was 98% sure what I'd find) and have told my w that if I was wrong then
I would have been the one damaging the marriage.
She'll ask for my phone, wanting me to hand it to her. I refuse, state where the phone is, but I'm not going to give her any type of indirect approval by handing it to her.
If I ever caught her snooping, I'd lock it. But so far I haven't had to take that step.
BTW: I was replying because I always get the "haha" type statements.
Her: If you're going to have a female friend, I'll call David
Me: OK
Her: You don't care if I talk to David.
Me: No, I'm sure it will be fun to get caught up... .I trust you, and expect you to use your best judgement.
I'm not sure if invalidating is the correct description... .It sure isn't what she wants to hear... .