Help I've had enough with my BPD husband, I want out pls help me

[Help123]

Been having problems with my husband.  He has got another woman pregnant she given birth to a baby girl. She give him and me 2 sexually transmitted disease. We are to trying to work at it is early days, he not that sorry as he is emotionally unstable and finds it hard to say he is wrong and blames every one but his self for his problems. he has borderline personally disorder.

I have three children I've been separated for two years from him was are still marriage 15 years now but I am being emotionally physically and mentally abused. I want to overcome his and his condition I've tried therapy and walking on eggs shells work book. But he still being very angry and horrible pass blaming and criticising me all the time. I know there is a technique in this organisation that could help me strengthen my mindset and how to conquer negative people also how to block negative people. I would like to be pointed in the right direction please help. Today he said if I don't change he is going to move in with the girl and the baby 

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[babyducks]

Hello Help123 and welcome.


I am glad you posted and took the first step in reaching out for support.    We can provide a friendly ear and helpful suggestions. 

I noticed you said

I am being emotionally physically and mentally abused.

Can you tell us a little more about the abuse?  Many of our members arrive here experiencing some type of abuse.   Are you and your children able to safely leave when the abuse begins?    More than anything we want you to be safe.   

On every screen you will find this link.   Go ahead an click on the green text.   And then come back and tell us some more, okay?

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[Daybydays]

Hi!

I am fairly new to this site. But from what I remember, reading posts and literature. You have to find a way to make your life worth it. Like, If you have 'hobbies' (sounds so dorky), or passions for your self (can be drinks with friends, your daughters). But I'm sure you know this yourself. But sometimes being pointed out a again gives a push in the right direction.

If you can make your self a whole and content person, his behaviour will not hurt you that much, and maybe eventually you will have the courage to leave... of course if that's what you want

Keep your head up!

DBD

[Herodias]

So sorry you are going through this... .I think sometimes when they know that you know what they are, they get worse. I took some NAMI classes and shortly after that he wanted out! He even brought woman into our bed on Xmas eve! Now he has another woman pregnant and we are still married. I know how heartbreaking this is... .How is he with your children? I think you need to look out for them. It can't be good for them to see you abused... .try and get yourself some hep with the domestic violence group in your area if you need to. Believe me, I have has guns and knives held to me... .so I understand how it can get. Let alone the emotional abuse... that's the hardest to get over. You need to look out for yourself. Don't worry about the other woman. He will repeat the pattern. Mine is doing almost exactly what he did with me, only at a faster pace. They can't be alone. Just worry about you and your children... .good luck, xo