continuing harrassement

[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

Been seperated from my exBP, BPD, SCITZOPHENIC GF for 4mths now NC for 10weeks. Ive been recieving weekly harrssement calls, text messages and even threatening emails claiming that i am a fraud, abusive, liar all the claims which my ex made upon our seperation, all which was triggered by her escalating rages and attempts to have me arrested for DV by calling the police and staging abusive events on three ocasions. These messages are coming from a source calling themselves annonymous complete with the masked face however the text messages have originated from a mobile phone number from the country she now resides in, they also are making generic statements that they have noticed that i have regained my confidence making reference to something i mentioned on a phone call in confidence to a female i have started seeing. Now i dont want to let my paranoia take over. Do you thinkthis could be her still, one of the reasons we clashed atthe end was her inability to follow through with anything and yetths seems relentless.

The other night i got angrh and told these cowards to go away,their threat was to go viral with all of there claims. This period of mh life has been traumatic enough without me having to defend myself to the world.

When will it stop

[Didntdeservethat]

Been seperated from my exBP, BPD, SCITZOPHENIC GF for 4mths now NC for 10weeks. Ive been recieving weekly harrssement calls, text messages and even threatening emails claiming that i am a fraud, abusive, liar all the claims which my ex made upon our seperation, all which was triggered by her escalating rages and attempts to have me arrested for DV by calling the police and staging abusive events on three ocasions. These messages are coming from a source calling themselves annonymous complete with the masked face however the text messages have originated from a mobile phone number from the country she now resides in, they also are making generic statements that they have noticed that i have regained my confidence making reference to something i mentioned on a phone call in confidence to a female i have started seeing. Now i dont want to let my paranoia take over. Do you thinkthis could be her still, one of the reasons we clashed atthe end was her inability to follow through with anything and yetths seems relentless.

The other night i got angrh and told these cowards to go away,their threat was to go viral with all of there claims. This period of mh life has been traumatic enough without me having to defend myself to the world.

When will it stop

[Mutt]

Hi didntdeservethat,

I'm sorry to hear that. Are you writing this down in a log, keeping playback recordings and screen captures?

It sounds like you're picking up some of the calls? It stops when we don't reward our ex partners by picking up the phone. If she calls you 21 times and you pick up  after 20 calls, she'll subconsciously know to keep calling and you will pick up. If you don't pick up the phone or respond to texts / emails it will eventually stop because you're re-enforcing that there is no reward.

Have you talked to police if she is harassing you? What have they advised?

[Didntdeservethat]

Thank you mutt

Yes ive called the police and my telco but because they have not threatened me physically and the calls are originating from os most likely the country where she is they have no jurisdiction.

I havent pick up any calls but responded to one email telling them to piss off, which i know was wrong but this has been relentless which is out of character for her as i could not get her to follow through with one thing in the 3yrs she tourtered me.

Tonight email stated they noticed my confidence was back and questioned a numer of things i am up too. Now this has me spooked as these things i have only spoken too 2 other people over the phone about and i trust them.

Do you think it could be her. I know i would like some closure ideally even an apology for her actions throughout, a friend suggested i answer as it may be her calling to apologise.

Can anyone tell me if that final conversation helped them move on.

[didionit]

I changed my phone number.  I highly suggest considering doing the same.  (It was free, and now, at least, if my ex harasses me on my work phone, my company can prosecute him.)

[Mutt]

Didndeservethat,

It could very well be her. The behavior with threats sound like extinction bursts.

triggered by her escalating rages

Extinction Bursts - Important to Understand when your Loved One has BPD.