Sometime we hope the nightmare will end and our BPDs will wake up and realize how amazing we are. Idk, currently I'm in a relationship with an amazing partner, who has done everything right, yet I'm not sure I love her. It pains me that I don't feel the deep love and everything that goes vwith that, because I know she's the best thing to everify happen to me, in time if my feelings don't mature to a more intimate deeper love I will have to make a choice to push her away. I write this to remind readers that being good for someone doesn't mean they should love you. It's not a checklist of great qualities and then your in love. If you or our BPDs don't feel it, nothing you do, no sacrifice is going to make to people fall in love. Just keep it in mind. I save my BPD life and she didnt love me. I'm dating miss perfect and the love is already fading on my part, even though I think I should be in love with this amazing person, I'm not. :)on't wear yourself down thinking if I just do this, or sacrifice that it will grow or prove our love. Im just not so sure it works that way. It's not worth killing yourself for someone who probably never loved you in the first place.
I actually believe that they did love us, just not in the "normal" and healthy way. In my opinion this is the only way they can love. Idealizations/devaluations, push/pull, manipulations, gaslightings, fear of abandonment, lies etc are all components of their love towards us. Another way of loving us was not possible
