Blocked in Facebook?

[Confused108]

Hey guys. Well since the beginning of October my ex has blocked me on Facebook. So tonight I get a "Friends" request from some guy named Harry blah blah. I don't know this person . We don't have mutual friends or anything else. I did however find it strange that there was a few friends on this persons page. And not much movement at all. Also it said that the person had just updated "Her" profile pic. Wait a min I thought the name Harry was a guys name?  Strange? Could this be my ex looking me up without her unblocking me from her own FB page? Anyone else ever have this done to them with their ex?

[Beach_Babe]

Yes, I had a "woman" named Cat doing the same.No profile picture and 2 (not mutual) friends. It's probably your ex but  are you really wanting to play more games?

[Confused108]

Heck no Beach! I didn't accept the request and blocked them!

[MakingMyWay]

Had a similar thing happen to me. Got a request from somebody I didn't know. They had put the same home town as me. I didn't think much of it. About a week later I remembered that I hadn't seen any posts from this person, decided to investigate a bit. We had no mutual friends and every other friend was in a different country. So it seems like the person was targeting me specifically by putting the same home town. Immediately blocked them, but it was still an unsettling experience.

[izabellizima]

GREAT thread... .this is a heads up to us noobs trying NC.

I have her blocked and got rid of mutual "friends" we had.

I am likely to accept request from strangers who are in my town and have a music profile or background because of what I do, but now I will keep my eye out for fishy requests. Thanks

[burritoman]

Consider yourselves lucky that one of you blocked the other. I went NC the second we broke up two months ago and haven't heard a peep out of her since, but we're still friends on FB. She still has up all of our relationship photos. One of them is still up in her Featured Photos?

Just after we broke up I thought about blocking her but decided against it. Not sure why. Looking back I wish I had. I feel a bit weird about doing it now. I have her hidden from my feed, and only recently looked at her page. The good news is that nothing I saw really opened up any wounds.

One of you blocking the other is a hidden blessing. I ended up blocking my last ex (non-BPD) about 3-4 months after breaking up because I wasn't healing AT ALL. Blocking her ripped open that wound again, but it was the best thing to do for myself. Kept her blocked for almost 2 years. Now we're close friends.

[Lou12]

Yes the odd friend requests, the random odd unlisted phone calls, the weird text messages, the coded FB posts, the attempts at making you jealous through social media... .all carried out by my BPD and no one will convince me otherwise!

[troisette]

I've blocked him, it's easier for me.

But your post has just reminded me that I got a request a couple of weeks ago from someone, apparently on another continent, a man. I had no idea who he was and dismissed it as a FB surfer. There are such people right? Especially men trying to friend women?

Otherwise... .

And I've just remembered that I got an email notification that a woman I'd never heard of wanted to friend me. When I logged into FB the request had been withdrawn. I tried a search under her name but no results... .

[MakingMyWay]

Consider yourselves lucky that one of you blocked the other. I went NC the second we broke up two months ago and haven't heard a peep out of her since, but we're still friends on FB. She still has up all of our relationship photos. One of them is still up in her Featured Photos?

Just after we broke up I thought about blocking her but decided against it. Not sure why. Looking back I wish I had. I feel a bit weird about doing it now. I have her hidden from my feed, and only recently looked at her page. The good news is that nothing I saw really opened up any wounds.

One of you blocking the other is a hidden blessing. I ended up blocking my last ex (non-BPD) about 3-4 months after breaking up because I wasn't healing AT ALL. Blocking her ripped open that wound again, but it was the best thing to do for myself. Kept her blocked for almost 2 years. Now we're close friends.

I wish I had blocked her when I had the chance. We had an email exchange a couple of weeks after breaking up which I initiated when I found out about my replacement that got a bit ugly, before I suspected she was BPD. After that she blocked me for a couple of days then unblocked me. I couldn't bring myself to block her and the day she went official with my replacement I was blocked again. I have been blocked ever since. Now I feel she has open access if she wants to try to come back, but I know I am strong enough now to resist.

I know my ex must still have photos up of me because a lot of her old profile pictures come up in my memories that facebook automatically puts up even though I have deleted them from my profile, always makes my heart skip a beat.

[NCEA]

I've unfriended her seconds after the disgrad. Wish I'd blocked , because her profile still comes up every time I start a search that includes her initials. I could make this go away if I block but then she might notice it. But I'm considering it.

I received two days ago a strange friend request and then a chat from an unknown girl who live as the same country as her.

But she has dozens of photos going back years and dozens of likes so it's not a new fake account. I didn't respond.

[Confused108]

Yea I'm an artist and usually will get friends requests from other artists or from mutual friends of friends. This is someone I don't have mutual interests with or friends. Plus the fact that they have a guys name and when changed their profile pic it said "her" profile pic. So yea very fishy indeed.

[once removed]

ive seen exactly what you are describing. happens to me every couple of months. happened less than three days ago actually. happens to my friends. its not my ex or their ex.

thats not to say your ex isnt checking up on you via social media, but probably not with this method. try adding them, or just watch the account. youll see it get deactivated, usually within a few days.

[steve195915]

We originally both blocked each other and I don't remember getting any requests.  We are now friends on FB and maintain contact.  I have been getting phone calls from Text Me and when I did answer they just hang up.  Also they leave no messages.  3 times in a week from one number and 1 time from another.  I'm suspicious it may be her, for what purpose I have no idea since we're not NC.  I just blocked the numbers so I don't get them anymore.

[Confused108]

ive seen exactly what you are describing. happens to me every couple of months. happened less than three days ago actually. happens to my friends. its not my ex or their ex.

thats not to say your ex isnt checking up on you via social media, but probably not with this method. try adding them, or just watch the account. youll see it get deactivated, usually within a few days.

I've been on FB for a few years now and this has never happened to me ever. I also asked a few friends if they get weird stuff lik this an they all said no. My ex is very very cunning. I doubt it is her but I would not put anything passed her either.