Btw, "Not yet" is a great answer for the next time.
There will be resistance. There will be claims that not yet is no. It's black and white thinking doing the talking there.
I really think that some sort of regular time with a T would be valuable for you.
You are about to embark on a journey to apply lessons and rules, that are new to you, in an effort to stabilize or make your r/s better. In order to do that the best way possible, you need a solid support system
Think about a three legged stool.
1 leg is BPD family.
1 leg is a T
1 leg are trusted friends and family that can appropriately support you.
For the friends and family leg I am really more interested in people that you can do things with and NOT talk about the issue, but focus on living a fulfilling life.
What lesson has provided the biggest Ahh Haa moment so far?
FF