Truthfully I want to and don't want to go. I am hoping not to text her first again. So by the time the concert rolls around it will be easier to say no. But at the same time I got tickets with intention of taking her so I still want to.
She said this time she doesn't want to stay the night either. Which part of me if we do go then I do want to spend night with her. But that really makes me no better than the players at the bars she's likely doing stuff with.
If I want to take her to concert then I shouldn't expect sex in return.
So at this point I'm trying not to text first. And I'll go from there.
Hedging bets either way is a very confusing mindset to be in. By now you know what to expect from her. You lived it. Part of you wants a shoe you. It's ok. It takes time to detach.
Her texting first is simply putting the feelers out to see if you'd respond. You did. It's likely she will now step back. She got what she needed. A nibble of validation. For you however you maybe expecting way more than she can provide. Differences in expectations is what keeps up hooked. Start to see things through her eyes and not what you need from her. You'll be forever disappointed if you expect her to do what you expect. That's asking her to be something she's not... .healthy minded.
Apart from concentrating on her, what can you do for yourself to assist you to detach? And why is it you want to hedge your bets? What do you think there is to gain?