Can you advise me on how to begin NC? At the moment we are in daily text or phone call contact and meeting up about twice a week which invariably contains some dreadful moments of rage or verbal abusefrom him. For nearly three weeks now I have categorically not responded or engaged to any of his baiting or rages . I've used tools I learnt here about simply saying I see what he means and leaving it at that or saying nothing. He wants to meet on Thursday to celebrate a business thing of his . He has certainly registered change in me and is sending kinder texts than in a long time and sounding v reasonable apart from when he's drunk . Do I simply announce that I will no longer be in contact with him ? That completely terrifies me. I'm very scared of him and his anger. We don't live tog but only a couple of minutes apart with many people and places in common. I suppose I'm vaguely hoping I'll meet someone else v quickly which will give me strength to detach!
Do you have a safety plan, and are others aware of this? If you're isolated or feel alone, I can understand your trepidation in ending contact. Hard NC may trigger escalation.
Is it just the fear of his anger that's keeping you talking and meeting?
