Left Angry and Confused

[confusedandangry]

Good morning, my partner of 2 years left me out of the blue and is with another within 24 hours.  She has erased all memories of me and our life together... I am hoping to find answers and get my own closure here... .I am so angry and confused... .I am obsessing over this break up and I have never done or felt like this before over anyone... .I don't understand...

[valet]

Hey confusedandangry, I'm sorry that you're going through this right now. All of that sounds really hard. I would be angry and confused too.

From experience I can say say that you're in a good place to find guidance and closure if that's what you're looking for.

Can you tell us any more about what happened? A few more details might help us point you toward some topics with reading here.

[confusedandangry]

This happened a week ago, so Friday night we were having dinner and telling each other how much we mean to the other, saturday we went shopping for hand soaps, sending flirty text until 530pm... .at 8pm, she said she was unhappy and wanted out.  She had been on her phone all that day, but that was nothing unusual.  Our trouble started when I had recollection of being molested as a child and was not having sex.  I was honest with her and seeing a counselor for my issue.  She said she understood, but continued to complain every other day.  She promised she was going to stand beside me, because she claimed to have been raped while serving in the military.  She has cut me completely off from her, not that I have tried to contact.  She is already in a relationship, she has accused me of cheating and lying... .I have been totally faithful, head over heels in love with her.  She lead me to believe I was safe with her, that she would never leave and that she would stand beside me thru this.  She walked off and left her dog, which is fine, because she did her children the same way.  She gave the father custody and chose to see them only 4 days a month.  During those times, she sleeps, watches tv and plays on her phone.  During our entire relationship as long as she had her way, there was peace in the house... .but if not... .there was hell to pay.  She would ignore me, talk about how I didn't love her, tell me how everything was my fault.  I cooked, cleaned, took care of the dogs, paid the bills and worked a full time job.  I am educated and everything about me knows that this was a toxic relationship and very one sided, but why do I feel like my heart is ripped out?  Why can I not just do as everyone tells me... .move on?  I have never had anyone have this much control over me and I can not explain it to anyone because they think I am being overly emotional.